Moving on...

I did this for my speech class with the help of my friend nicko! (sept. 28,2010)

“People can be more forgiving than you can imagine. But you have to forgive yourself. Let go of what's bitter and move on.” - Bill Cosby

Don’t you ever wonder why break-ups hurt so much, even when the relationship is no longer good?  A break-up brings uncertainty about the future. What will life be like without your partner? Will you find someone else? Will you end up alone? These unknowns often seem worse than an unhappy relationship.

Sometimes you just have to let go of things to grasp better ones, you have to look for a greener pasture, we should always remember that we only have two hands and we can never have everything.

But what makes moving on so difficult? Moving on is the hardest thing to do, worse than saying goodbyes. Maybe it's the fact that now you should realize that everything is over, at this time reality is knocking at your door, either making you feel like a winner or a big looser at the decision you made.

You just don’t know what to do, every time you see the person that made your life colourful, now he is just a dull memory, just a face with the story behind it, just a chapter of your life that had an unhappy ending.

This time you would find comfort from your friends, of course they would tell you, go out some more, make more friends, make yourself busy, but are these things really helping you forget about your past? Will these help you cure the pain that was brought to you by the unhealthy goodbyes? For me at some days, maybe they will, but these are not long term solutions, maybe for a day or so they can help you forget but at the end of the day when you’re alone in your room you can’t help but remember the smiles that were crafted by the both of you.

Recovering from a breakup or divorce is difficult. However, it’s important to know that you can and will move on. But healing takes time, so be patient with yourself. Stop kicking yourself. You are worthy of being loved! This particular relationship failed, you didn't. Don't keep thinking about this person, by doing so you're just giving them more and more power to hurt you.

In my opinion there is only one thing that can help you really move on, acceptance. You have to accept that nothing last forever, yes you were hurt, you can cry, you can whine, you can be so emotional, that’s just normal. But don’t dwell that much on the situation. You have to get up, dust yourself up and start moving forward. You can never be at your destination if you would just be stuck at where you at. You really don’t have to forget, in fact you should always remember because these are lessons that life would like you to learn, so by the next time you’ll be at the same situation, at least you would have an idea of what to do and to get out of the situation.